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The problem. Being Treated Like A Lady
May. 29th, 2014 08:44 pmSpoken from the Never Can Get It In Gear Trans...
You know, I get. I do. Women want to be respected, they want to feel special, they want to not worry to death about men all the time. I completely understand.
My problem is that they want the manners that kept them oppressed to go along with it. Which by proxie, has men expecting that women should do all the things that make women oppressed. Which, of course, they've been trained to see as just Polite, and not what it is.
Artifacts of the Slavery of Women.
It's got to stop. Men need to stop expecting that women get to be treated as property because they followed rules that they don't understand, and women need to stop expecting fake politeness for the sake of their self worth. We're way past the point where Chilvery should have been artifacted away. We are way past the point that we should demand conventions based on sex. We should be past this.
We're not. Men are to blame. They perpetuate the princess cycle. They perpetuate the need to make women 'theirs'. Men act aggressively when they feel all their efforts fail. The teaching of the behaviors has to stop. It just has to. We've reached a point in our culture where neither sex trusts each other. The fact that love, lasting or temp, still happens boggles my mind.
I mean, I know the rules aren't fair, but quite frankly, it's not the woman's fault. She has to protect herself... but she also needs to realize that holding up the chains that made her a slave, and demanding that they be brandished around to make her feel good, is a horrible thing to do.
There is a world of difference between wanting to be possessed by someone, and demanding the conventions from people who have not earned the right to be with you, and you should never, ever, let those conventions get in the way of having true respect.
You know, I get. I do. Women want to be respected, they want to feel special, they want to not worry to death about men all the time. I completely understand.
My problem is that they want the manners that kept them oppressed to go along with it. Which by proxie, has men expecting that women should do all the things that make women oppressed. Which, of course, they've been trained to see as just Polite, and not what it is.
Artifacts of the Slavery of Women.
It's got to stop. Men need to stop expecting that women get to be treated as property because they followed rules that they don't understand, and women need to stop expecting fake politeness for the sake of their self worth. We're way past the point where Chilvery should have been artifacted away. We are way past the point that we should demand conventions based on sex. We should be past this.
We're not. Men are to blame. They perpetuate the princess cycle. They perpetuate the need to make women 'theirs'. Men act aggressively when they feel all their efforts fail. The teaching of the behaviors has to stop. It just has to. We've reached a point in our culture where neither sex trusts each other. The fact that love, lasting or temp, still happens boggles my mind.
I mean, I know the rules aren't fair, but quite frankly, it's not the woman's fault. She has to protect herself... but she also needs to realize that holding up the chains that made her a slave, and demanding that they be brandished around to make her feel good, is a horrible thing to do.
There is a world of difference between wanting to be possessed by someone, and demanding the conventions from people who have not earned the right to be with you, and you should never, ever, let those conventions get in the way of having true respect.
